Dear Empowered Reader,
As we journey through the ever-changing landscape of our lives, one truth remains constant: we are not meant to do this alone. Whether you are navigating a season of growth, facing a challenge, or simply seeking more joy, the people you surround yourself with—your support village—are essential to your well-being and transformation.
Today, let’s explore the importance of building and nurturing your support system, share practical strategies for fostering meaningful connections, and reflect on how community can provide support. I’ll also share two personal stories that have shaped my own understanding of what it means to be held by a village.
Personal growth is often portrayed as a solo journey, but in reality, it’s deeply communal. Our support systems—friends, family, mentors, colleagues, and even acquaintances—act as mirrors, cheerleaders, and safe harbors. They help us see our strengths, navigate our blind spots, and celebrate our wins. When we are surrounded by people who believe in us, we are more likely to take risks, pursue our dreams, and recover from setbacks. A strong support system doesn’t just make life easier; it makes growth possible.
A few years ago, I was at a crossroads in my career. I felt stuck and unsure of my next steps. During this time, I reached out to a former colleague—someone I admired but didn’t know well. To my surprise, she responded with warmth and generosity, offering her time and wisdom. Our conversations became a regular source of encouragement. She challenged me to see possibilities I hadn’t considered and reminded me of my strengths when self-doubt crept in. Her support didn’t just help me make a career decision; it reignited my belief in the power of reaching out and being willing to engage with others.
Building your support village is both an art and a practice. How do you do it? Don't worry if you know me, you know I love a numbered list!
Here are some strategies to help you cultivate and sustain meaningful relationships:
1. Engage Fully (The "E" in EMPOWER). Engagement is the foundation of connection. When you actively engage with others—showing genuine interest, presence, and care—you invite authentic relationships. Share your dreams, fears, and aspirations. Listen deeply and without judgment.
2. Reach Out Intentionally Don’t wait for others to make the first move. Send a text, schedule a coffee date, or join a group that aligns with your interests. Small gestures can lead to lasting connections.
3. Nurture with Consistency Relationships thrive with regular care. Check in with your people, celebrate their milestones, and offer support during tough times. Consistency builds trust and intimacy.
4. Be Willing to Receive Help Sometimes, we hesitate to lean on others, fearing we’ll be a burden. Remember, allowing others to support you is a gift to them as well. It deepens bonds and creates a reciprocal flow of care.
5. Expand Your Circle Diversity in your village brings new perspectives and strengths. Seek out connections across different backgrounds, ages, and experiences. Every person adds a unique quality that can enrich our lives.
In the past, I have faced health challenges that have left me feeling vulnerable and scared. At first, I tried to handle everything on my own, but it quickly became overwhelming. When I finally shared what I was going through with my close friends and family, something beautiful happened. They started offering their support, and I started accepting it. Their support didn’t just lighten my load—it reminded me that I was not alone. Their collective strength became my own, and together, we have learned to navigate the storms.
Resilience isn’t just about bouncing back; it’s about growing stronger through adversity. Community plays a vital role in this process. When we are surrounded by caring people, we have access to:
Emotional Support: A safe space to express feelings and process experiences.
Practical Help: Assistance with daily tasks or challenges.
Perspective: Insights and encouragement that help us reframe difficulties.
Accountability: Gentle reminders to stay true to our values and goals.
Research shows that people with strong social connections are more likely to thrive, even in the face of significant stress. Our villages help us remember who we are, especially when we forget.
Reflection Questions
Take a moment to reflect on your support village:
Who are the key members of your support village? List the people who uplift, inspire, and stand by you
How can you strengthen your existing relationships? Consider ways to show appreciation, deepen your connection, or offer support.
In what ways can you contribute to others' support systems? Reflect on how you can be a source of strength and kindness in someone else’s life.
Affirmation “I am surrounded by a supportive community that helps me thrive.”Repeat this affirmation whenever you need a reminder of the love and support that surrounds you—and the love you offer in return.
In the EMPOWER Possible framework, the “E” stands for Engage—engaging fully with life, with ourselves, and with others. Building your support village begins when you actively engage in meaningful connections, showing up with intention and presence. Engagement is the spark that transforms casual interactions into deep, supportive relationships. When we engage openly and authentically, we create a community that uplifts and empowers us all.
Start engaging today. I am always happy to connect, listen, and support you on your journey. Reach out, take that first step, and watch how your village grows.
Together, we can regenerate our world—one relationship at a time.
Take care, Dear reader,
Julie Zaruba Fountaine Founder, Empower Possible
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